Making a choice often feels like a punishment.  Being unsure what to do, what to cast aside, or what to focus on can be too much to handle.  It is necessary to allow the decision-making process.  The more natural making choices become, the more focused your life can be.  

Excess, Physically and Mentally

The world is full of excess.  There is a desire to have it all – from material items to information.  We clutter our minds, we clutter our homes, and we clutter our closets.  It is challenging to make choices; to narrow down our desires and focus our attention on a single thing seems nearly impossible.  However, to focus and declutter is key to a greater livelihood.  

Walking through a mall can cause a hunger for things.  There is an innate drive to have more, more, more.  After spending a day there, the home can end up feeling smaller than ever.  Once you buy too many things, there is no room for new.  Yet for some reason, there is no drive to get rid of the old.  This overload can be stressful.  So why deal with it?

It can be challenging to make choices, even if it is something as simple as choosing what to eat for dinner.  However, if we do not make decisions, we destroy our potential for better.  The more we allow the mind to wander and frazzle itself, the more we lose sight of what is important, and hence, we lose focus.  In the example of a post-shopping circumstance, we find ourselves trapped in an endless cycle of too much.  When you allow yourself to make a choice, when you allow yourself to donate a bag of clothes or throw the raggedy away, you feel a sense of clarity.  This example is simple and small-scale, however, this applies to every angle in life.

While it may be challenging to accept at times, decision-making can be necessary when thinking about friendships.  It can be important to declutter; that is, to make choices of those of greater importance and value.  Those that do not provide a positive life experience, or that pull the better parts of you away, can be detrimental to a positive existence.  By making choices, you can focus on what individuals deserve more time and attention.  You allow yourself to focus on the individuals that bring positivity to your life, which is vital to living life to its highest potential.  

When was the last time you felt comfortable in a cluttered space?  Most likely, well, never.  If you do not feel comfortable in a cluttered environment, you should not allow your mind to become a cluttered space.  You must declutter the mind.  Make choices about what to give attention to.  Do not cater to negative thoughts and anxieties, as they will clutter your mind and provide a discomforting space.  By cluttering your mind with negative information, you fail to provide room for new and different – fresh and positive.   

Despite the natural urge to avoid choices, and to avoid change, you must stand taller and focus your mind.  Less is more.  Surrounding yourself with only the necessities and the most valuable elements in life allows you to feel greater appreciation for the world around you, while also providing a clear thinking space.  

Avoidance of Conflict and Fear of Mistakes

Naturally, we wish not to create conflict.  If someone asks us a question in our opinion, when we are aware we disagree with the person, we may feel inclined to avoid a response.  When we are uncertain what to do in a particular situation, we may avoid a solution in the hopes of never needing to make a mistake.  There is a constant voice in the back of our heads telling us not to do the wrong thing.  However, how can we feel comfortable in our lives if we are anything but honest with ourselves?

Making choices is okay.  No matter how wrong it feels, it is okay to disagree.  It is okay to answer a question with 5 when the answer is 6.  It is okay to try something and be incorrect.  When we fail to make choices, we cloud our minds with unnecessary thoughts, such as:

What if I say the wrong thing?

I don’t want to look stupid.

I wonder what they want me to say.

Will he hate me if I say no?

I don’t want to but I think she will be upset if I don’t say yes.

I don’t want them to think I don’t know what I’m doing.

If we jumble up our minds with these thoughts, we are doing ourselves a disservice.  It is better to speak the truth and be incorrect than to endlessly ponder whether or not we should say what we believe.  The fear of failure is unnecessary.  Find comfort in making choices, and allow your mind to declutter.  Give yourself mental space to focus.